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What NOT To Say To An Expecting Mama

***This post originally appeared at dearava.com***

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We've all been there. A dear friend is pregnant, and you're bursting with excitement! You may want to share your own experience with pregnancy and childbirth, or you may want to give her the best piece of advice you've heard when it comes to raising children. While many things can be taken in stride by pregnant women, there are a few zingers that you'll want to steer clear of, even though you have the best of intentions.


"Wow, you're huge!"

This, or any other comment on her weight or size, isn't a good idea. If you want to comment on her appearance, the appropriate sentiment is, "you look beautiful."


"Sleep while you can."

Pregnant mothers-to-be are exhausted from growing a tiny human, and the last thing they need to hear is how they may be even more exhausted when the baby arrives. If you'd like to be helpful, offer to come over after the baby arrives and clean, cook, or hold the little one while she showers and catches some much-needed zzz's. 


"Say goodbye to your free time/ hobbies/ relationship."

New moms know that their entire world is about to change, and they're likely working hard to wrap their heads around just how different life is going to be once their little one makes their appearance. Talking about how their life will change for the better - they'll be so in love with their child, they'll have a new respect for their partner, they'll get to experience the best parts of being a little kid all over again - is a much better way to go than saying something negative. 


"My childbirth experience was horrible."

Mamas, especially first-timers, are often terrified at the idea of giving birth. While it can feel like a bonding experience to share horror stories, do so out of earshot of an expecting mom. Setting her up to even more anxious than she already is to have her baby doesn't help - it only creates worry. 


"Are you sure you're eating enough/ aren't you eating too much?"

A pregnant mom's diet is between two people - her and her doctor. There's no need to comment on how much or how little she's eating. There's no way to know whether she just got done fasting for a test, or if she's so nauseous she's struggling to keep down ginger ale and saltines. If you're in a situation where there's food, ask her if there's anything you can get for her so she can sit down and relax. 

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It can be hard to know exactly what to say to a pregnant woman. Erring on the side of staying positive is always smart. If you've had a child before, it can be tempting to share your wonderful (and not-so-wonderful) experiences with a mom-to-be, but tread lightly. Encouragement, positivity, and excitement are always welcome, while judgment, shame, and questioning of one's decisions are not. When in doubt, ask her how you can help her get ready for her bundle of joy to arrive and be on call for questions and support when the baby arrives.

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