Skip to main content

What NOT To Say To An Expecting Mama

***This post originally appeared at dearava.com***

Pregnancy Spa Gift Box


We've all been there. A dear friend is pregnant, and you're bursting with excitement! You may want to share your own experience with pregnancy and childbirth, or you may want to give her the best piece of advice you've heard when it comes to raising children. While many things can be taken in stride by pregnant women, there are a few zingers that you'll want to steer clear of, even though you have the best of intentions.


"Wow, you're huge!"

This, or any other comment on her weight or size, isn't a good idea. If you want to comment on her appearance, the appropriate sentiment is, "you look beautiful."


"Sleep while you can."

Pregnant mothers-to-be are exhausted from growing a tiny human, and the last thing they need to hear is how they may be even more exhausted when the baby arrives. If you'd like to be helpful, offer to come over after the baby arrives and clean, cook, or hold the little one while she showers and catches some much-needed zzz's. 


"Say goodbye to your free time/ hobbies/ relationship."

New moms know that their entire world is about to change, and they're likely working hard to wrap their heads around just how different life is going to be once their little one makes their appearance. Talking about how their life will change for the better - they'll be so in love with their child, they'll have a new respect for their partner, they'll get to experience the best parts of being a little kid all over again - is a much better way to go than saying something negative. 


"My childbirth experience was horrible."

Mamas, especially first-timers, are often terrified at the idea of giving birth. While it can feel like a bonding experience to share horror stories, do so out of earshot of an expecting mom. Setting her up to even more anxious than she already is to have her baby doesn't help - it only creates worry. 


"Are you sure you're eating enough/ aren't you eating too much?"

A pregnant mom's diet is between two people - her and her doctor. There's no need to comment on how much or how little she's eating. There's no way to know whether she just got done fasting for a test, or if she's so nauseous she's struggling to keep down ginger ale and saltines. If you're in a situation where there's food, ask her if there's anything you can get for her so she can sit down and relax. 

Pregnancy Spa Gift Box



It can be hard to know exactly what to say to a pregnant woman. Erring on the side of staying positive is always smart. If you've had a child before, it can be tempting to share your wonderful (and not-so-wonderful) experiences with a mom-to-be, but tread lightly. Encouragement, positivity, and excitement are always welcome, while judgment, shame, and questioning of one's decisions are not. When in doubt, ask her how you can help her get ready for her bundle of joy to arrive and be on call for questions and support when the baby arrives.

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Irresistible Me Diamond Flat Iron Review: Is it worth it?

I started using flat irons since I was 18 years old (well, that was 12 years ago?) and I’m amazed at how the industry of hair straighteners had come. Man, I think we're missing out on some great deal. Flat iron over the years, We all know the humble beginnings of hair comb or some may call them hair thongs which are made of two rods heated to straighten the hair. I never get to use this one as I was introduced to the second generation of hair straighteners and that was using a standard home clothes iron. Nah, I mean the basic flat irons made with metal plates and few heat settings. Not until the early 2000s when I saw this model with ceramic plates that most people use today. Ceramic is by far the most popular material for this product as it is both inexpensive and actually safer compared to the clothing iron or heating rods back in days. Depending on your hair type, ceramic plates are believed to lock in moisture and protect hair color. But with a lot of this model

Weekend Well Spent

Last week was kind of breezy to the point where I thought it was already Friday when I’m only in the middle of my week, which is odd because when I’m excited for something and I’m looking forward to it every single day, it makes my whole month moved into a slow motion and I’m like bored to death. Gladly, my weekend didn’t pass by so sudden that I got to enjoy it with people dearest to my heart to the fullest. I love weekends so much that I decided not to care about laundry or cleaning the house (sort of) but just spend the whole two days enjoying the cold weather which means more sleeps and longer walks to the mall. Last weekend, we ate breakfast in our PJ’s, had brunch in the street food shops, enjoyed salmon and some surprisingly affordable tasty Japanese cuisine, scored some discounts on baby clothes and winter shirts, did some window shopping, had a half dozen Krispy Kreme glazed donuts for dessert and just cuddled and sang nursery rhymes at the top of our lungs.

How To Instantly Add Luxury To Your Wardrobe

As you have probably guessed, I literally spend a good part of my day shopping online. Yep, when major sales popped out, I'll stop what I'm doing to catch a glimpse on which of those pieces look good on me. To the point, I recently spent a morning scrolling through a dozen items on shopping websites. Making me the perfect target consumer when it comes to social media marketing ads. Ha! Sadly, however, I can’t possibly purchase everything on my wishlist and so every now and then I blog about my current favorites hoping somebody can benefit from the fruits of my labor. While there are specific brands I love to cover on a weekly basis today I like to highlight and celebrate similar brands for cheap yet elegant staples to give you more unique and fashion-forward options. Just keep scrolling to get started shopping and see a couple of elegant dresses to keep your outfit on point. Clothing website, kis.net was founded on the vision ""to be a top-end garment supp